It’s time we start talking about this very important physician burnout solution.
If you struggle with saying YES all the time (even when you want to say no!)
If you are feeling resentful that your work is taking over your life.
If you wish you could have better work life balance.
This blog post and podcast episode is especially for you.
On this weeks episode of the Life After Medicine podcast, I interview Dr. Maryna Mammoliti, Canadian trained psychiatrist and leadership and boundaries coach.
Dr. Mammoliti is an expert on boundaries and is literally writing the book right now on how to create healthy boundaries for the modern day physician. In the episode we discuss:
- Her own traumatic experience that showed her the importance of setting boundaries (which actually involved being assaulted by a patient at work)
- How medical training conditions us to be people pleasers and say YES all the time
- How we can realistically empower ourselves to say NO more often
- Dealing with the consequences and fall out that can happen when you say NO
- How to get started setting your own boundaries
And so much more!
This episode is packed with realistic and tangible advice on how to set boundaries – so you can finally develop a more sustainable work life balance.
Listen in using the audio player above OR head to Apple Podcasts or Spotify.
Dr. Mammoliti’s background
Dr. Mammoliti always wanted to be a psychiatrist and during her residency training, she was interested in studying physician mental health. And she started working she got exposed to a lot of highly-stressed professionals not only health workers but also lawyers and etc. Her psychiatric study is focused on trauma from work and childhood, eating disorders, ADHD, anxiety, depression and addiction.
She then started coaching or motivational interviewing when she realized that there a few psychiatrist that helped their patients navigate towards model of wellness and how to create a life that you wanted.
The physician burnout solution we ALL need
Most healthcare professionals tend to be people pleasers. We don’t want to disappoint others and identify as perfectionists. The whole process of medical training selects candidates who are people pleasers and who don’t say no.
We are trained that if we say “yes” (especially for women) we will be perceived as kind, good, nice and compliant which are desirable traits. However, many of us do not realize that if we say YES to something we are also saying NO to something.
In the medical field, physicians are always inclined to say YES due to urgency, under staffed issues and etc. This is what leads to burnout and it’s why a physician burnout solution is SO necessary.
Corporate healthcare doesn’t WANT a physician burnout solution
Most often, physicians are all consumed by free, unpaid, time-consuming work to do aside from clinical care. The truth is that the healthcare system could not sustain itself if the physicians says NO more often.
The system actually benefits from taking advantage of the good- will and compassionate nature of it’s healthcare providers. Essentially corporate healthcare does not WANT a physician burnout solution.
Empowering ourselves to say NO
But as healthcare providers, we have to realize the cost of saying YES and NO in our lives. We have to ask ourselves some honest questions in order to empower ourselves to say NO.
- What are the costs of saying YES, and the costs of saying no?
- Which costs are we willing to pay?
- What are we not willing to tolerate?
In the medical field, we might not be able to say no today but maybe in the future. The decision of saying NO and not saying NO is about knowing your priorities.
Boundaries are the #1 physician burnout solution
Learning how to set boundaries is the most necessary physician burnout solution.
Boundaries are typically the differentiation between two objects or persons. The end of something is where something begins. It tells us who we are. It is also considered as a space between two objects. Boundaries can also be a set of predictable rules and expectations on a specific role.
Example: Time Boundary – limiting phone calls after 9PM
It’s important to get started setting your own boundaries.
Step one is knowing truly and really knowing who we are. This takes a significant amount of self-reflection. We must understand what our needs are, and what boundaries do we need to put in place.
What cost can we afford and what solutions can we have when the cost arises?
Dr. Maryna Mammoliti is a Canadian trained psychiatrist and leadership and boundaries coach. She is co-founder of Triumph Excellent and Coaching Center and is also co-authoring a book on boundaries for physicians called Saving Lives Without Destroying Yours: How to Create Healthy Boundaries for the Modern Physician
You did have it right. Everything did say WHILE destroying yours…
You need to check your sources. This woman is an absolute hack and has at least 3 Ontario College complaints against her….please do your due diligence and retract your endorsement!